bdsm and kink

[leo9]

I'd suggest that kink is an intersecting set, which might include things that are within the world of bdsm and outside of that world. Strictly speaking, for example, clothing fetishes are outside of bdsm, but fall within it the moment you add "control" and power exchange aspects.

The BD refers to bondage and discipline. The SM refers to sadism and masochism (i.e., pain.) DS, the middle initials, have been "adopted" to mean domination and submission, (including power exhange.)

So anything else that would qualify as kinky sex, is only part of bdsm if done in the context of one of the above.

In my opinion of course.

That's how I understand and use the terms. If I get a kick out of pissing on someone, that's kinky, but if they're cheerfully accepting of it then it's not BDSM. That comes in if they're ordered or bound into accepting it. If they accept it freely but experience it as an awful degradation, it's on the borderline.